The scents for moms

 

By Domonika Dvoranova

 Me and Katarina are joined by journalism. A few years ago, we worked for the same woman’s magazine. When I later moved to Belgium for a year and Katarina moved to Switzerland, we stayed in touch only virtually. Today we are connected by a different kind of work – we are both stay-at-home moms living abroad. My name is Dominika and my husband, and I moved to Austria three years ago. I’ve been home with my kids for almost seven years.

 

This summer I realized I forgotten about myself. I have been working literally days and nights and I did not take enough time to rest. I saw my family being nervous because of me.

And in my cup of energy were only a few drops left. I had to change something. But I did not know how to do it. We are living abroad alone, and I am with the kids all day long. Where to find the time to relax? At that moment, I needed more than just an evening or a few hours during the weekend when my husband was able to take the kids.

Therapy in a bottle

I have owned high-quality essential oils for a longer time. I used them especially when me and my kids had a cold or stomach ache. They always helped us to get better without visiting a pharmacy or doctor. I started to read more about essential oils and found out that they also help with exhaustion, nervousness, fears – they are simply good for our soul. That inspired me because I wanted to be more calm and joyful! Little did I know – the smell nerves are linked to that part of the brain that plays a key role in triggering emotional reactions. Therefore, every essential oil, thanks to its chemical composition, affects a certain emotion.

Starring basil

I started using essential oils differently. They have become part of my daily rituals, and today I know that thanks to them, I can be a calm and joyful mom again. The basil, oil of renewal, came into my life first. It is recommended for feelings of burnout, fatigue, and low vital energy. That was something for me! I started diffusing it daily along with the lemon oil. The smell of basil essential oil is very intense and one or two drops in the diffuser go a long way. At the same time, I started rubbing it on the area of the adrenal glands, which react very sensitively to the stress in our life, and we feel exhausted. And what happened? In my house it can look like a bomb has exploded, I am still able to smile.

My advice: take 20 drops of basil in a 10 ml roll-on and fill it up with the fractionated coconut oil – you have ready-to-use essential oil.  

Good-bye perfection

At the same time, I was eager to let go of the urge to control everything. I wanted to trust my children and my husband that they also know what to do. You know that feeling that everything is up to you, and if you don’t control it, something’s going to happen. That is what I wanted to work on. Every day I rub on my shoulders a diluted wintergreen (I use 10 drops for 10 ml roll-on) in the fractionated coconut. This oil teaches me to trust in the flow of life. In my household you can regularly smell cypress which is an oil of movement and current. It helps me alleviate my perfectionist tendencies. Perfection and kids do not go well together, and it burns our energy fast.

Put the joy first

In addition to the fact that essential oils smell daily in my home, I use spare moments of the day when I do something that delights me and brings me to other ideas other than the list of household chores. They say small daily rituals help prevent feelings of burnout. Well, I am here for it!

Every morning I read a daily meditation and randomly selected quote from the book. I simply employ the mind with positive thoughts. Because what we are paying attention to, that is growing. After breakfast, I made a commitment to read one chapter from the book. During morning hygiene, I take an extra minute for myself and apply a cream with a drop of lavender to help moisturize my skin. While I cook the lunch, I listen to a podcast. In the evening I turn on the diffuser again with soothing and relaxing oils such as bergamot, vetiver, and lavender. 

 

Aromatherapy brings joy to my life. I feel much better and most days I am a calm mom. That is what I really wanted for myself. Maybe my experience will inspire you to include scents in your life. And although us moms living abroad can feel alone and without help, we don’t have to be alone – nature’s gifts have always been here to help. It’s up to us whether we use them or not.

Which scent reminds you of happiness? Start with getting THAT one oil. Feel free to share your favourite scent with me on Instagram – @momfromheart.

 

My advice

Choose quality essential oils, ideally with a CPTG certificate, which means a certified therapeutic class. Then you know that every batch of oil is inspected and doesn’t contain artificial substances, pesticides, chemicals or fillers. Essential oils from ordinary shops will not meet this standard. With high-quality oils, you will also get all the information on how to use them safely, and you can further get some advice on how to use the oils. Imagine, only lemon essential oil has at least 15 uses.

If you have a small baby up to 1 year, use more subtle essential oils such as wild orange, lemon, tea tree, lavender, and frankincense in the diffuser. Diffuse the oils for a shorter time. With the newborn it is recommended to pre-diffuse the room, then to turn it off, and only then to go with the newborn in the room. 

If you don’t like the smell of certain essential oil, it means you have a problem with the emotion that the oil is helping with. Do not stop using it, diffuse it purposefully with an affirmation. When you start to like the smell, you know you’re on the right track.

 

My favourite essential oils for moms

 

When I miss the joy…

Wild Orange

It is a great oil if you want to attract more in your life – more money, love, health, good mood. Citrus essential oils can change your mood from depressed to cheerful and full of energy. Wild orange connects us to our inner child. It promotes our playfulness and brings more spontaneity to life. That can be very helpful when having kids.

 

When I want to talk to partner about something important…

Lavender

It is an oil of communication. Lavender promotes the release of tension and dauntingness that comes from the fear of expressing ourselves. Levander will support words that come out of our soul.

 

When I have a mess at home…

Lemon

No time to clean up? A few drops of essential lemon oil will do – everything will suddenly seem cleaner to you. It is also a great oil for working moms as it encourages concentration.

 

When I need to turn off my brain…

Frankincense

You lie down in the bed in the evening, and there are still thoughts in your head about what to cook tomorrow, whether you will be on time for an appointment, what to buy and clean up. Does it sound familiar to you? Frankincense is a perfect oil for situations like this. Make a drop into the palm of your hand and inhale.

 

When I am low on energy…

DIY Roller blend

I can’t imagine my mornings without this blend. It wakes me up even after a busy night. I mixed it myself into a 10 ml roll-on – it contains 5 drops of peppermint, 5 drops of wild orange and 5 drops of rosemary along with fractionated coconut oil. I rub it on my feet, neck, and wrists. If you breastfeed a small baby, replace the peppermint oil, which can reduce milk production, with lemon essential oil.

 

Photo: Dominika Dvoranova and Chelsea shapouri on Unsplash

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